6 Steps To Make A Real Change In Your Life
Did you start the New Year with a positive attitude, resolving to change something? Did you start the New Year with a positive attitude...
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Did you start the New Year with a positive attitude, resolving to change something?
Did you start the New Year with a positive attitude, resolving to change something about yourself or your life?
The New Year is traditionally a time when many people take stock of their lives and decide that there are things they want to change (read: decide that they are not ‘good enough’). Despite all the hype, good intensions and associated anxiety of committing to self-imposed sacrifices, positive thoughts and promises, by the middle of January resolutions have usually fallen by the wayside.
Have you ever considered that this annual ritual of adopting a positive mental attitude may not be working, and that it is time to change the record?
Much has been written supporting the view that all you need to do to change your life for the better is to think positive thoughts. The same people will often suggest that rejecting any negative feelings is crucial if you are to live a happy, fulfilled life.
I would be the last person to dismiss the importance of being positive, yet I believe it is simplistic and hugely unhelpful if you want to manifest a change in your life, particularly if you want that change to be both positive and sustained.
My personal experience of dealing with significant challenge and that of working with hundreds of people to help them create a sustained and beneficial change in their lives demonstrates that there has to be a multi-layered approach.
Making a real change doesn’t need to be complex. My strategy is built on the following six principles:
The New Year is traditionally a time when many people take stock of their lives and decide that there are things they want to change (read: decide that they are not ‘good enough’). Despite all the hype, good intensions and associated anxiety of committing to self-imposed sacrifices, positive thoughts and promises, by the middle of January resolutions have usually fallen by the wayside.
Have you ever considered that this annual ritual of adopting a positive mental attitude may not be working, and that it is time to change the record?
Much has been written supporting the view that all you need to do to change your life for the better is to think positive thoughts. The same people will often suggest that rejecting any negative feelings is crucial if you are to live a happy, fulfilled life.
I would be the last person to dismiss the importance of being positive, yet I believe it is simplistic and hugely unhelpful if you want to manifest a change in your life, particularly if you want that change to be both positive and sustained.
My personal experience of dealing with significant challenge and that of working with hundreds of people to help them create a sustained and beneficial change in their lives demonstrates that there has to be a multi-layered approach.
Making a real change doesn’t need to be complex. My strategy is built on the following six principles:
1 - Creating Lasting Positive Change
Unless there is a really powerful reason to change it is unlikely that real lasting change will occur. Identify what you want to change and why it is important to YOU.
To create change you need to choose to do things differently rather than feel you should or shouldn’t, you must or mustn’t, you ought to or ought not to. These feelings bring baggage from childhood – parents and teachers impressing on you their beliefs and rules… - baggage that can easily sabotage the change process.
Choosing to do something because you really want to has a very different feel, it’s a good place to start.
2 - Give Yourself Permission
So many of the people I have worked with fail to create the change they say they want in life until they give themselves permission. Don’t get caught up with what other people will think.
Many people are stuck because they fear that other people will think badly of them or that if they make the change it will de-stabilise their relationships; they worry that if they change people wont like them.
Giving yourself permission to move on and to do or be something different can be incredibly empowering.
3 - Shine Your Light
What holds you back from creating lasting change? Is it fear of failing or perhaps you fear success? The quality of your thinking has everything to do with the quality of your life.
Dealing with the beliefs and fears that hold you back are a vital piece of the jigsaw. Unless you deal with these they will continuously rear up, potentially sabotaging any progress you make.
Doing this by yourself can feel really daunting, if it does it is really worth getting some help.
Unless there is a really powerful reason to change it is unlikely that real lasting change will occur. Identify what you want to change and why it is important to YOU.
To create change you need to choose to do things differently rather than feel you should or shouldn’t, you must or mustn’t, you ought to or ought not to. These feelings bring baggage from childhood – parents and teachers impressing on you their beliefs and rules… - baggage that can easily sabotage the change process.
Choosing to do something because you really want to has a very different feel, it’s a good place to start.
2 - Give Yourself Permission
So many of the people I have worked with fail to create the change they say they want in life until they give themselves permission. Don’t get caught up with what other people will think.
Many people are stuck because they fear that other people will think badly of them or that if they make the change it will de-stabilise their relationships; they worry that if they change people wont like them.
Giving yourself permission to move on and to do or be something different can be incredibly empowering.
3 - Shine Your Light
What holds you back from creating lasting change? Is it fear of failing or perhaps you fear success? The quality of your thinking has everything to do with the quality of your life.
Dealing with the beliefs and fears that hold you back are a vital piece of the jigsaw. Unless you deal with these they will continuously rear up, potentially sabotaging any progress you make.
Doing this by yourself can feel really daunting, if it does it is really worth getting some help.
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